The simple but powerful reason I work with men in their 40s
- Jess Spiers
- Sep 19
- 2 min read
Why do I work with men in their 40s? Because too many are silently struggling and it's impacting their mental health.
On paper, life looks great: good job, decent salary, family, stability. But behind the scenes, many of my coaching clients tell me they feel empty, purposeless or quietly burnt out.
And it isn’t just about work.
That sense of dissatisfaction seeps into everything - relationships, confidence and self worth.
It's about their mental health.
It’s the quiet identity shift that happens around midlife but you don't often hear men talk about it.
Why men often stay silent
I’ve seen that men are often less likely than women to open up about this struggle. Instead, they shoulder the responsibility, grit their teeth and push on.
Some even tell me they’ve grown up believing that asking for help is a weakness.
But that mindset comes at a real cost. The longer you suppress what you’re really feeling, the heavier the weight becomes, until it affects every part of your life.
What happens when men finally give themselves permission
This is why I do the work I do.
Because I’ve seen what happens when a man finally gives himself permission to connect with what he really needs. The ripple effects are profound:
It changes how he shows up at work.
It changes how he shows up at home.
And it transforms how he feels about himself.
Sometimes it's a bold career change. Other times it’s as simple as a shift in mindset.
But the outcome is always the same: more energy, more purpose and a sense of lightness that was missing for years.
Asking for help is never a weakness
Let me be clear: reaching out for help is not a weakness.
In fact, I’d say it’s one of the bravest and strongest moves a man can make.
Because when you’re willing to stop, reflect and choose a different path, that’s when you reclaim not just your career, but your life.
If this has struck a chord, I offer a free half hour chat to see if we'd be a good fit to work together - no strings attached.
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